One of the earliest arguments I remember having with my father (with many more to follow) was about poetry. He maintained stubbornly that if it didn’t rhyme, it was not a poem. I told him that that was ridiculous, just on principle – I was nine or ten and surely didn’t really know why – if you’ve paid any attention to anything poetic in the last hundred years, but that’s what he’s like. It’s what a lot of people are like, in fact – and reading The Brain That Changes Itself, it seems there’s a good reason for it: it’s easier.
It makes intuitive sense, and I know I’ve heard it before, but the paths that are formed by thinking (or doing, or anything else requiring the brain) become smoother and more influential the more we repeat them. This is pretty helpful to think about when trying to break a bad habit or build a new one, and applies nicely to the usefulness of pre-visualization and rehearsal too.
I was complaining a few posts ago that a friend had declared turntable music “not music” out of hand, and how that was just simple closed-mindedness and a lack of humility – Jazz, which he loves, was seen as “not music” by plenty of people when it popped up. (I read an article about Edison’s inability to accept Jazz the other day – he declared that it sounded better backwards than forwards; this short-sightedness killed his very early record label.)
It’s the difference between, essentially, the liberal and the conservative mind, isn’t it? The conservative mind likes things the way they are, and the liberal is intrigued by the possibilities of change. Every political argument has plenty of this dynamic at its root, and I find it useful to keep in mind, especially when the foremost arguments aren’t seeming to make sense, like last year’s knee-jerky reaction to electoral reform here in Ontario.
And neither side is actually better – this is me growing up here, by the way. I have always been a lefty and sympathetic towards new things and underdogs. That’s why, for example, I was well-prepared to acknowledge the worth of turntablists (that’s the term they use) long before I could hear anything attractive in it. I’d LIKE to think that it’s because I’m nice and conservatives are mean, but that’s self-flattery; conservatives like to think of themselves as Smart and Realistic (and not Dopey and Soft) by the same token. But without the two impulses straining against each other – if one side were to Win – what would happen?
The Canadian situation of late – of minority governments needing to compromise to get things done – is turning out to be a very nice situation. Not perfect, naturally, but better than, say, Ontario’s Harris experience, where one-side bulldozed the other and the province suffered because of it. I’m sort of hoping that minority governments will continue – even if the progressives and liberals were to take office. If Layton had the power to bulldoze, Canada would pull out of Afghanistan (so he say, anyway) and people there would suffer brutality worse than they are now. If Harper had full power, he’d stay in, spend more money on the military, and not bother to tell us anything about it. This is, by the way, why I favoured the MPP MMP (Mixed Member Proportional) system proposed to reform the election process in Ontario: because more options would open, more minority gov’ts would be likely, and so more compromise would occur. And I’m reasonably sure that compromise is healthier than conflict.
It leads me back to the idea of Humility: if conservatives and liberals alike were more often able to acknowledge their personal tendencies and that neither were Holy or Better, more conversation (and less arguing) might occur.
What led me to this little rant, by the way, was this: I was eating breakfast and listening to a record new to myself and realizing that I actually prefer lyrics that rhyme. And how my Dad and I are actually in agreement about that, thirty years later on. If our initial argument had been framed differently – in terms of preference, and not fast rules and polar opposites, what might have happened with us?